Winners Vs Losers
Labels
If you have issues with labels, such as winners and losers, then you probably already believe that you are a loser and you hate it and you hate it even more when others put you into that category. You are responsible for how you see yourself. Learn to take any criticism constructively and to use it to your advantage.
So what if you think you’re a loser? Do you want to change? There may be some things at which you’ll always fail, but hopefully there are areas in your life in which you can win and excel to your full potential. If you’ve tried repeatedly at something and getting no where, then in some cases it is better to drop that goal and use your focus and time to try something else. Only you can determine if you should continue or not, and ending a goal isn’t necessarily being a loser if you’ve tried everything you know of and you still can’t achieve what you want. Giving up too early can be considered a losing strategy, while a winning strategy depends on patience and determination if you are actually making progress toward your goal.
Winning vs. Losing
Use the following list of comparisons to determine if you are a winner or not. Remember, sometimes it takes losing at things to determine how to achieve successful results. Winners know how to assess current reality relative to their goals, and how to adjust their actions to take winning steps to those goals.
Winners aim to achieve success.
Losers aim to avoid failure.
Winners aim for honest personal and business results.
Losers aim for personal kudos and ego gratification only.
Winners develop themselves by helping others to succeed.
Losers criticize others to make themselves feel better.
Winners talk solutions and take action.
Losers talk problems and do nothing.
Winners work based on priorities and successful actions.
Losers never have time for things they’d rather not do.
Winners know that failure is only deferred success.
Losers think success is only deferred failure.
Winners conquer their own fears of failure and their learned limitations.
Losers quit when the going gets tough, usually to avoid failure and take the easy way out.
Winners make an effort to take control of their lives.
Losers rely on luck and live in hope or for expectations of charity.
Winners have directions, goals, and real successes.
Losers have hopes, wishes, and unfulfilled dreams.
Winners look for the truth and reality in every situation.
Losers let their feelings and other people’s opinions influence their decisions.
Winners create values (products, services, and art).
Losers simply enjoy stuff and never produce anything of value for themselves or others.
Being a winner requires work.
Losing requires little to no effort at all.
You Decide
So which are you? Whatever social status in which you were born, or what you were given by others doesn’t have any relevance to whether you are a winner or loser. How you use what you currently have in current situations determines if you are winning and gaining benefits or losing. If you make the best of your situation, then you are a winner. No matter how bad the situation, you can still feel like a winner if you truly are winning and gaining experience and proverbial ground by taking actions to win. Learn to motivate yourself to take actions toward your goals. Decide to take action NOW!
Sure, that sounds simple to do — just make the most of your life and you will be a winner. But if it were that simple, then why isn’t everyone a winner? Why are so many people unsatisfied with their lives? The answer is that becoming a winner in your life takes energy and action and it usually never happens randomly or by accident. It is something you must do consciously and by choice. Plus, many people don’t have the knowledge and practical skills necessary to develop into winners. They are basically confused or misinformed about how life works. They tend to rely on others to pull them through or provide necessary answers. However, everyone has the potential to be a self-sufficient winner.
Take Responsibility
To be a winner, you need to take responsibility for your successes and failures. Many people have decided that success depends on external factors — such as luck, connections, the financial market, fate, other people, God, to name a few. These people do not rely on themselves for success and success rarely manifests for people in this frame of mind. These types of people lack direction and motivation. They believe that they are just along for the ride in life, and they hope for the best, which is usually a handout or better situation provide by other people.
Responsibility and self-direction go hand in hand. You decide where you want to go, and then you take the responsibility for getting yourself there. If required, then educate yourself on how to get where you want to be. Read books and talk to people, but always make up your own mind about it all. Be your own authority and the final decider on what you need to do to be a winner.
Winners usually experience happiness continually. They utilize their available time wisely and can remain in positive mental states while creating values, such as products and services that people want, and thus are rewarded with opportunities, purchases or exchanges of items or services.
Losers are usually trapped in negative-attitude ruts and they use their abilities and efforts in negative and unproductive ways. They spend time trying to find ways to avoid responsibility and avoid taking action toward the things they really want. Most of the time, they end up not getting what they want, and at the same time they have confirmed and reinforced their losing attitude. If you choose to evolve your winning skills, you will start to notice your own thoughts and attitude change for the better. Becoming aware of your attitude is important. If your attitude is negative, then you’re probably not getting what you want or you’re moving in the wrong direction. The path toward winning and success is both an internal and an external one — internally it takes attitude, education, focus, and planning, and externally it takes active steps to achieve your goals, adjusting your steps if necessary, and then taking more steps.
Almost everyone has both some losing and winning qualities to various degrees, so no one is 100% winner or loser. We all have our strong qualities and then there are the areas in which we need to work at it more. Hopefully you now have a better understanding of how to proceed in your personal journey of success and how to live your life like a winner. Find something you’re interested in doing and go for it!
About The Author
I’ve had a look through this, and I’m basically more loser than winner, which I figured as much. Still, there are many parts of this that I don’t understand. It’s possible that I sound like I’m whining as I write this, so I apologise in advance. I’ve come to the conclusion, though, that however whiny my queries sound, my past tactic of trying to not be a whiner and thus not ask them hasn’t resulted in anything except my becoming a quiet loser instead of a vocal one. My aim is to put out my thoroughly wrong opinions in the hope that I’ll get slapped and set straight, if that’s okay.
Right.
“Winners aim for business results, Losers aim for personal kudos.”
Would this be that a winner does things that get him success in terms of money and solid assets (financial security, stability, house etc.) whereas losers only try to succeed at the things they personally want to succeed at? As in, say, two artists: winner starts an art business and makes money from his craft, loser just draws stuff he feels like and doesn’t get anything else from it? Or is it more a sort of discipline vs. whimsical thing? Like, the Winner dedicates himself to drawing something every day, the loser doesn’t bother?
“Winners develop themselves by helping others to succeed, Losers criticise others to make themselves feel better.”
Can a loser actually help others to succeed? If not, isn’t he stuck as a loser, and winners have to be winners before they can, well, be winners?
Or is this more of a ‘constructive criticism’ thing? As in, a winner would look at a piece of art and say “You’ve drawn the eyes a bit wonky, but that’s the only thing I can see that’s wrong, and it’s otherwise pretty cool” while a loser would say “Ha, you can’t even draw eyes properly! You suck! Just go home and quit!”?
“Winners talk solutions and take action, Losers talk problems and do nothing.”
What do you do in the case of problems that you don’t know how to solve? What’s the difference between “Talking problems” and “Talking ABOUT problems”? I had always ranked those as the same thing, and I know I’m wrong, but I still can’t see the difference; How do you tell the difference between when you haven’t found the solution to a problem because the problem isn’t solvable alone, and when you haven’t found the solution to a problem because you’re lazy? The only answer that occurs to me is “Ask, and it’s the latter if you get punched in the face” (note: not literally) – is this the only way of assessing things?
“Winners work to priorities, Losers never have time for things they do not want to do.”
This one is obvious enough to me, but my query is tangentially related: What’s the difference between being lazy and avoiding burnout? How do you tell when you’re away from your desk making a third cup of coffee because you’re not applying yourself, and when you’re away from your desk making a third cup of coffee because it’s a particularly difficult problem you’re facing and you need the break? If you opt to push yourself and not stop until you succeed, are you finally getting some backbone and combating bad tendencies, or are you being an idiot by denying yourself needed recovery? How much recovery / Work time DOES the average person need, or what would be recommended?
“Winners conquer fear, Losers quit when the going gets tough.”
What’s the difference between ‘quitting’ in the sense of just dropping it because it’s hard, and dropping a thing because it’s legitimately a non-viable task? I trained in karate, for example, for about fifteen years, but I haven’t been to class for about nine months; I’ve never been good at it and I’ve rarely enjoyed it, although at least one of the reasons I’ve rarely enjoyed it is because I’ve never been very good at it. I’ve stopped going, in part, because I need to find a permanent job and I wanted to devote as much time as possible to the search. Am I finally conquering my fear by cutting a thing I’ve never enjoyed, or am I BEING a quitter for dropping it, and if I only poured more effort in I’d turn myself around?
On a related note, this vast amount of tosh I’ve written: was this “conquering a fear” of looking stupid, or am I just a quitter who’s given up on figuring things out himself?
“Winners look for the truth in every situation, Losers let their feelings and other people’s opinions make up their minds.”
How do you tell when you’ve found ‘The Truth of the situation’, and how do you know that your feelings aren’t influencing it? If, for example, you feel that it’s wrong to go out with your friends and that you should devote all your time to study, is that the truth of the situation or is it letting your feelings and the opinions of your teachers make up your mind? If you spend all your time going out instead of studying, is that the same?
Is it that it doesn’t matter what the ultimate decision is, as long as you did what you wanted? So the person who wants to study, and studies no matter what his friends tell him, is right to do so; and the person who goes out no matter what his parents tell him is also right to do so?
If one shouldn’t let feelings and other people’s opinions make up their minds, doesn’t that render the whole concept of “Winners” and “Losers” moot? Any loser could claim that he acts the way he does because he’s just following this very rule.
Should your feelings not influence a decision at all?
“Winners create values, Losers just enjoy values.”
I don’t understand the wording of this one – what does it mean to “Enjoy values”? What is the creation of values, also?
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I’m done. Sorry, that was a bit massive. Apologies for sounding like a twit at times also.
Thanks for bringing this article to our attention, Terry. Being one of our early outsourced articles, we probably never fully reviewed the content for clarity. It was actually written very poorly. I’ve rewritten most of it and will return to add more and to address your questions in more detail soon.
Best Regards,
Maxwell Jennings
This is an absolutely terrific blog post! Extremely insightful and helpful. After reading your post, I am definitely taking into account the mindset of Winners vs. Losers when making decisions.
Great article. Attitude is key to everything – especially so for young kids. In the UK competition at schools has virtually been stopped the idea being so there are no losers. However that means there are no winners either! I train in martial arts and have chosen the non-competitive route. I am in competition with myself – training harder, pushing myself. This is what I believe it is to be a ‘winner.’ It’s not about trophies, it’s knowing you have done your best
I’m a loser across the board. All I have are hopes, wishes and dreams.
I’m doing something, or a bunch of things, wrong and I can’t figure out what. Attitudes are one thing, but behavior is where you get results.
All my life, I’ve made bad decisions and now (at age 51) I’m paying the price.
Can someone turn his life around this late in the game?
I’m a loser across the board. All I have are hopes, wishes and dreams.
I’m doing something, or a bunch of things, wrong and I can’t figure out what. Attitudes are one thing, but behavior is where you get results.
All my life, I’ve made bad decisions and now (at age 51) I’m paying the price.
Can someone turn his life around this late in the game?
i think loser should not feel shame that they lost but winners should be proud of them that they won. because no one is here in this world who wins every thing